Wednesday

There Is Always A Consequence

Today I was faced numerous times with the consequences of a decision I recently made. The decision I made is one that moves me closer to where I want to be and what I want to accomplish. However, there is always a cost for every decision. There is always a consequence to pay for what we decide to do. There is always a cost. As they say, nothing in life is free. It doesn't always cost money, but there is always a price for everything.

The decision that I recently made was simple. There is a woman I have been friends with for a couple of months now, and we have developed emotions for one another over the last few weeks. We decided to make a commitment to one another. Sounds simple enough right. Well, here is the catch. There is another woman I was talking to and becoming friends with that had romantic intentions. I told her from the get go that there was no promise and that I wasn't rushing into anything and that I wasn't really looking for a relationship. She had done me a couple of favors, and now feels betrayed because I decided to date another woman. I wasn't misleading or dishonest about any of it, but the cost there was a friendship.

Another catch to my situation is the fact that a mentor of mine has eyes for the woman I started dating. Now I have to tell him that I we are seeing one another. I am sure it will go well, however, I am concerned that it may offend him for not telling him last week when the relationship started. I had no idea he had an interest in her when he asked her out, so I figured it didn't matter if he knew about us or not. Now I have to have a conversation and tell him about the two of us. Again, the cost there may be a friendship, though he is a bigger man than that.

The point is simple. No matter what we decide to do, or where we decide to go, there is always a price to pay. There is always something we are giving up to get something else. There is always something we are losing out on to keep what we have. There is always a price of some sort. Always, and we must be willing to pay the price for what we want, or be willing to pay the price for not going after what we want. In the end it comes down to us being willing to do what it takes to get what we want.